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rantsey
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Posted: Fri Jul 11th, 2008 02:09 am |
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I agree with JRT. I grew up in KY until like '83 when I moved to MD. The first "person of color" I ever saw was on t.v. I came to MD with some prejudices and preconceived thoughts on all of the people I saw here that were of color. Boy am I happy that I soon included these people as my friends, the same people I all but feared not long ago. I have some very wonderful black, white, bi-racial and probably anything inbetween in my wonderful circle of friends and family. God commands us to love one another - had I continued with the same thoughts as an adult that had been instilled in me at a very young age, I would have missed out on some great people and everything they have contributed to complete me.
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Posted: Fri Jul 11th, 2008 01:30 am |
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I think the topic "How I was raised to look [view] at blacks" misses the target by a long shot. If you were raised in a household that taught racist attitudes towards others is no excuse for you to continue to reflect those same attitudes. This is similar to saying that we used out-houses when I was young and therefore do not have in- door plumbing today.
It comes down to your own personal experiences and interactions with people of all kinds. You learn that visual input is less important as an individual's overall character. You need to be able to experience things on your own in order to make up your own mind. Half of the crazy crap that my parents preached no longer holds water today.
To blame this on one's parents is nothing more than an excuse to remain ignorant.
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4thekids
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Posted: Fri Jul 11th, 2008 01:19 am |
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I remember Rosetta a black lady that uses to come by our Grandmothers house to pick up her clothes to wash them. My father used to call her Miss Rosetta. We as a white family respected that women but my father couldn't get past what he learned about blacks as a child.
In his book they where all N's, all accept Rosetta she was just that Rosetta.
Whenever he was at my Grandmothers and Rosetta came we would give her a ride home.
As we drove up to her house everyone would look at us as if they were saying what in the hell are they doing in this neighborhood.
I know that this had to be hard for her to accept the ride home because of what her neighbor would say to her, why are you riding with that white trash.
From Rosetta I learned that you have to judge people by the way they treat you not by their color.
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DorCouNtyGirL
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Posted: Fri Jul 11th, 2008 01:12 am |
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| On the other hand, how were blacks raised to view whites (or any other scenario). I also believe that its all in how you are raised. Me I was also raised not to discriminate against color, on the other hand I was taught to be friends of course but no dating or anything like that. To this day I wouldn't say I am against mixing of race but I will say it is just not for me. So far as the "n" word goes, I was taught not to use it but also that is did not just mean black people it could define all sorts. Sue I agree with you, I think allot more so has to due with "class" rather than color. I "dislike" anyone who sits on their a$$ all day long and is capable of working but doesn't and lives off of my hard earned dollar that I work so desperately for while doing drugs and eats better than I do, drives a nicer car than I do, wears nicer clothing than I do...again so on and so forth....and this person could be Hispanic, white, Asian, black, Hawaiian WHATEVER!!
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Posted: Fri Jul 11th, 2008 12:56 am |
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| When I was growing up my Mother taught me to be nice to everyone, no matter their color. One of our good friends was a black man with one arm named Herman. His Mother used to pick geese for us. Mr. Herman was kind and even though he only had one arm he would lift me up in one swoop to say hello, little girly, whenever I saw him. His family was just as polite to us as we were to them. I believe they lived on Park Lane. I was taught to never say the n word. I bet if I had, my Mother would have slapped me silly. There are a lot of words that people say today all of the time , that were off limits to me when I was a kid, and I still don't say them. When I was in high school I had good friends of color. We used to get together and sing in the locker room of C.H.S., after gym class, and dance around. Boy, those were the days. I agree with Farmer. It's all in your upbringing. If you are taught to hate and discriminate you will, on the other hand if your parents were loving fair minded people , you learned to give people a chance, and not say I don't like him or her because of the color of their skin. You decided things about a person based on their character. That is what I do today.
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Posted: Fri Jul 11th, 2008 12:40 am |
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You made some good points, farmer.
My experience growing up is listening to my dad using the N word to describe people of color but at the same time he had friends he thought a great deal of that were black.
I had a hard time understanding how he could go to their homes, eat with them and associate with them but then use derogatory rhetoric about their race.
As I got older, I decided it was the same thing many do, which is lump people together in groups. It is easy to do that, you know conservatives, liberals, hippies, eggheads, nerds, etc. BUT when we take the time to meet people from those "groups" individually we find they are all different and really cant be categorized.
Another point...I believe sometimes it is not race we are prejudiced against as much as it is a certain class of people. That often gets mixed up with racial prejudice.
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Posted: Fri Jul 11th, 2008 12:09 am |
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Want to debate the race card? Here's a challenge to give your views some credibility. If you have an opinion about blacks or other races, you must have a basis for it which most likely started at home. Please keep it civil so that this thread can be not only provacitive, but informative as well, and not be removed due to stupid, mean-spirited remarks. I'll go first.
As a kid growing up on a farm, my exposure to blacks was primarily in the field doing "hard labor." Over the years, I learned to respect others, regardless of color, for their contributions on a daily basis for getting the job done. I also clearly remember our "nanny" who happened to be black. My grandfather trusted his black employees to help train us kids to do the work at hand. We also learned many "life lessons" from them along the way. As I became older and more exposed to "off farm" localities and activities, like high school, I became confused as to why there seemed to be more than one type of black people. The "country" blacks I grew up with were different. They didn't seem to have the "chips" on their shoulders some of the "city" blacks appeared to. To make a long story short, my firm belief today is that the difference is not about black or white, it's about upbringing. In the country, people respect, depend on and look out for each other, regardless of color. In a city or "metropolitan" setting, for whatever reason, it seems to be more of an "every man for himself" setting. I have come to believe that it's more about a "have and have not" mentallity, which these days is basically color blind, than it is about white or black, Blacks just get the brunt, by default; that's the way it's always been, so it's the most convenient discrimination, if you are so inclined. It;s only a matter of time, blacks will be replaced with, probably Hispanics as the biggest threat to the white man's way of life.
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